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the story of an invisible girl
renniekins
renniekins
Clothes and other stuff
When I catch up with friends recently, they tend to ask me what I've been doing. I usually tell them "I've been working a lot", because answering with "Darned if I know" feels weird. I guess the problem is that I'm used to having regularly scheduled activities to tell people about. Aside from Yoga on monday nights, and work on weekdays, nothing is actually a "repeating event".

I've been hanging out with various friends. I've seen a couple of movies (Garden State and Spiderman II). I installed myself a new porch light, with the help of my sis. I raked leaves, and I need to do it again. I've done a bit of shopping, looking for a new winter coat (no luck yet). I helped A with some packing (boy does she have a lot of clothes). I had a Big Sister interview, but I don't have a Little of my very own yet. I actually have been doing a lot of work and work-related stuff (interviews, JUG meeting, lots of internal meetings, not to mention actual day-to-day work on my current project). I've been spending Quality Time with my new dentist, and stressing about it.

Maybe the above paragraph is why I have trouble telling people what I'm up to. It's kinda long, and filled with lots of little details. I can't just "sum up" all that stuff in a sentence or two, and all that minutia would probably bore the asker to tears. Then I have to answer their next question: no, I haven't been skating. But yes, I really want to get back on the ice. Just gotta make time for it!

So anyway. In helping A pack, we went through her clothes and tried to do some purging. We got rid of some, but she still has an amazing amount of clothes. Part of it is that she never gets rid of anything. Well, hardly ever. Personally when I buy something new, I attempt to discard or give away something also. I try to retire clothes that I don't wear any longer, or that don't fit, or are hopelessly out of style. She just keeps it all.

We also have different ways of buying clothes. She looks for stuff on sale, or cheap, and buys lots of it. Like if she finds an item she likes, she'll buy the same thing in several different colors. Me, I like browsing the sales racks, but I also look at the regular stuff. If I like something, I'll buy it (just one of it), and only if I don't already have something similar at home (at least in theory).

I took home some clothes that we managed to convince her to purge (oh and let me tell you, convincing her to purge her wardrobe was hard!), that I thought I could maybe wear. Right now I'm wearing a pair of simple brown pants she gave me. They are comfortable, and they look pretty nice, but I had trouble figuring out what to wear them them. (I'm not good at matching colors. I'm especially not good with brown or navy. Yes, I've fretted about this before, and I'm better, but I'm still not a whole lot better.)

I tried one sweater; it had some tan in it so I thought it might work. But it looked weird -- the thin black stripes in the sweater look good with tan but not with the medium brown pants. They I tried a nice olive green sweater. I looked in the mirror and was not convinced that brown and green really go together. But then I thought to myself, "Well, trees do it."

Trees are pretty. If it's good enough for nature, it's good enough for me. Plus, it was time to stop fussing and go to work. So here I am! Hopefully I'm not embarrassing anybody, or bringing disgrace to the department or something.

Wait a minute -- I work in the computer department. Why am I worrying?
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encorecrazay From: encorecrazay Date: November 22nd, 2004 03:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
From the Oprah Show, a couple of weeks ago, on cleaning out closets:

These simple truisms can help anyone looking to reduce their closet bulges.

Create three piles: "yes," "no" and "maybe." Jesse says you have to "learn how to let things go back out into the universe. It's the circle of life."
To make these three piles, ask these three questions about each piece of clothing: Do I love this? Is it flattering? Is this the image that I want to portray? If any answers are "no," then it belongs in the "no" pile.
After making your three piles, understand that are three possible actions. Obviously, you'll keep the "yes" pile and get rid of the "no" pile. In the "maybe" pile, consider creating what Jesse and Joe call an archive. Jesse says this option is for old clothes that you likely will no longer wear, but have sentimental value. Jesse and Joe recommend storing archival items in an attic or basement—but not in your closet.

renniekins From: renniekins Date: November 22nd, 2004 08:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
That's a nice simple approach -- thanks! I like the "archive" idea.
pi3832 From: pi3832 Date: November 22nd, 2004 04:34 pm (UTC) (Link)
If I like something, I'll buy it (just one of it), and only if I don't already have something similar at home (at least in theory).

Obviously you don't have trouble finding things that fit you well.

You see, I'm in the fat-guy's gap. Meaning, general stores only carry clothes up to a certain size, like a 42-inch waist in jeans.

And yet the fat-guy's store (euphamistically, "Big and Tall") carries only truly huge sizes, e.g, typically starting around 48-inch waists in jeans. (What jeans they occasionally do have in "smaller" waist sizes tend to have silly inseams, like 24 or 40. I need a 32.)

I wear a 44 at the moment (I've really porked-up over the past few years). I'm too big for mainstream stores, and too small for fat-guy stores.

So, anyway, when I find a bit of clothing that fits me and is non-hideous (I swear there's a conspiracy to make fat guy's look stupid) I buy every variation of it I can get my hands on.

Hmmm. What's my point here? Probably just explaining why I'm jealous of people who can buy just one of any given thing and still have plenty to wear.

Ah, fuggitaboutit. Let's talk about your underwear some more.
elizilla From: elizilla Date: November 23rd, 2004 06:35 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm so there. I'm not quite six feet tall, and I wear shoes in size 10 wide. This is a bad place to find clothes. If I find something that fits and isn't awful, I buy multiple colors. If it fits, it isn't awful, and it's neutral, I might by four or six of the exact same garment in the exact same color.

I have bought multiple pairs of the same shoes, worn them all out, then taken them to the shoe repair and paid more to patch them up, than I'd paid to buy them in the first place. It's not like I can buy new ones. When they're gone, they're gone, and who knows when the shoe makers will screw up and make something that fits me again?
renniekins From: renniekins Date: November 23rd, 2004 09:29 am (UTC) (Link)
Wow, that must be a royal pain. I'm lucky with shoes, because my size is easy to find. Clothes aren't all that easy, since I'm short-but-not-skinny, but it's not impossible either. Just takes some digging through the petite area.

With my friend, she's a fairly easy size to find. She just likes having the same thing in multiple colors!
jeffreyab From: jeffreyab Date: November 23rd, 2004 07:09 am (UTC) (Link)
I figure its not that big guy stores do not stock it rather that they stock those sizes but are always out of them because they are the most popular.

I have the same problem and live farther from the big guy store.

Finally Ren green and brown sounds great and black also goes with brown.
renniekins From: renniekins Date: November 23rd, 2004 09:18 am (UTC) (Link)
hmmm....I can see how that would be really frustrating! I am sympathize a tiny bit, because I am very short ("petite") but not skinny. So finding clothes that fit well and are comfortable can be a real pain, though not impossible.

I think another part of my problem is the fact that I won't know until wearing something for a few weeks (especially with pants) whether I will really like it or not!

This is the case even with underwear. *grin*
simplykimberly From: simplykimberly Date: November 22nd, 2004 10:50 pm (UTC) (Link)

LOL ...

"Well, trees do it."

That HAS to be my new favorite piece of fashion advice. Ever!

I wanna hear about the Big Sister interview! Totally!

I love all your minutae :)
retepsnave From: retepsnave Date: November 23rd, 2004 05:49 am (UTC) (Link)

more on Trees

... so very true!
could not stop laughing at it...

... and don't forget that we are like trees, each of us in different shapes and sizes but each beautiful in their own right...
renniekins From: renniekins Date: November 23rd, 2004 09:40 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: LOL ...

**grin**

Well, the Big Sister interview was mostly a "find out more about her to make sure she's not too freaky to work with children" type of deal. We talked a lot about me, my family, childhood, work, what I like to do, etc.

We also talked about what kind of child I would be most interested in being matched with. Did I have age preferences? Race? Was I okay with going into Detroit? Was I comfortable with a child who had been abused? Etc.

I said I'd like a younger kid. The other factors shouldn't be a problem. I also was surprised to discover that they do sometimes match women with boys, so they asked if I'd be okay with that. I guess they have a lot more women volunteer than men, but a lot more boys looking for Bigs than girls. So if a boy doesn't have a great need for a male, they'll sometimes match women. Just with young boys though, well before puberty.

She told me more about the program, the support system, how things work, and stuff like that. I said that my greatest fear wasn't any of the above factors, but simply that we wouldn't "click". I want to form a real bond and make a difference, not just spend uncomfortable time with a kid who doesn't want to be with me.

Hmm, I thought I didn't have a lot to say about this interview, but maybe I do! Perhaps I should post more about it after all. (:
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