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juliebata From: juliebata Date: March 1st, 2003 11:00 am (UTC) (Link)

Changing names...

I never thought of myself as Mrs. B. H. when I was married to him. I did change my name to his, because I had always hated the last name I grew up with. I was criticized by some for being a "bad" feminist, and that pissed me off! I wasn't giving up or losing anything of myself, all I did was change my name to something I liked much better. 8+ years later, when we split, THIS is my name, I'm not going to go back to my maiden one, and B. didn't mind that I kept his. If I ever marry again (looking less and less likely with each lonely passing day!), I might consider changing my name again, but I'd REALLY have to like the new one!

renniekins From: renniekins Date: March 3rd, 2003 08:06 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Changing names...

The whole "changing names" thing is a complex issue. I know for me, I've never been altogether fond of my last name. It's 11 letters long, and impossible to pronounce on the first try. But even so....it's a part of me! It's part of who I am! I think just like you, I would decide whether to change it based on whether or not I liked the guy's name. I don't think it's anti-feminist to change it....I really do like the idea of a family all sharing one name. It's deciding what that name should be that is challenging!

But I would never call myself "Mrs. John Doe", even if I took his last name....yuck!!!
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