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Hair Confusion
My head is weird. I think the main issue is that I have a really high forehead, so my hairline starts farther back than some people's. Also my hair is fairly thin.

Whatever the cause, I can't really wear elastic hair-bands. The elastic circles that you see lots of girls wearing around their hair -- when I try to wear one, it gradually contracts, going drifting away from my forehead and neck, until it just pops off the back of my head. I don't know how other girls pull it off; it looks so nice when they do it. I guess it must be because they have more hair to hold than I do.

My hair looks nice pulled back a little bit like that. Like when I push my sunglasses on my head, for example. So I bought a couple of plastic and metal hair-bands, the kind that are horseshoe-shaped. These look pretty nice to me, and I found a few that don't tend to slide off the way the elastic ones do.

However, they give me a headache. The ends press into the sides of my head, leaving small dents there, and by midway through the day my head is hurting. I take the band on and off through the day (right now it is sitting beside my keyboard) to feel better. I don't know why this is, because I've never felt that my head is particularly large. In fact since the rest of my body is smaller than many people's, and my head is somewhat proportional, it seems to logically follow that my head is probably smaller than many people's. So why would a generic one-size-fits-all hairband hurt me? I would think if anything, it would be too big. What do girls with bigger heads do? I don't know - maybe they're the ones wearing elastic headbands.

Lots of people nowadays tuck their hair behind their ears. That looks nice, but how do they get it to stay behind their ears? Darned if I know. Little barrettes/hairpins are also popular, I've noticed, to achieve a similar behind-the-ears look. But I am never really successful with those either.

I'm not sure what the problem here is. Either my head is weird, my hair is weird, I'm clumsy, I'm impatient, or I over-think things. I suppose it's probably a combination of all those things. It'd be nice if my hair just always looked like it does in the icon up there, but it mostly only looks like that when my hair-dresser spends lots of time blow-drying and round-brushing it in some complicated manner. (I wonder if all of this stems from my insistence on air-drying my hair, instead of blow-drying it?)

Hair is complicated.


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From: writerwench Date: November 16th, 2007 10:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
My daughters both have very thick, straight hair, which when they were younger was difficult to contain - grips, slides, combs and suchlike would simply slide right out! I have the opposite problem - extremely thick curly/bouncy hair, which needs mega-strong containment measures or to be cut short.

I have the same problem with elastic headbands and the grip-on type - they grip way too tight for comfort! The only way I could make slides or grips stay in place on the girls' heads was to use bobby-pins as an anchor - push the bobby-pins onto the slides at right angles, to make sure they didn't move.

I loathe blow-drying my hair, it's a complete waste of time - the last time someone did it, I looked like Cherie B.Liar! Yucko! But fine, straight, thin hair is always tricky. Have you ever thought of having a very mild 'body' perm, maybe?

lillyrayne From: lillyrayne Date: November 16th, 2007 10:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
I have the same issues with elastic headbands! So when I was in Wisconsin working with the staff of girls primarily under 25, they told me the secret. You must use bobby pins or that will happen to everyone! Never knew. However that seems like to much work just in order to wear a piece of elastic on my head. and as far as the horse shoe shaped plastic ones, you can find them so that the ends are padded! they are amazing. When ever I see those I buy a couple of them Those suckers are like gold, I love them. I also have the thin straight hair that you have so its nt like we have tons of styling options.
Good Luck!
ms_hecubus From: ms_hecubus Date: November 17th, 2007 08:32 am (UTC) (Link)
I guess my head is odd then because I used to wear the elastic bands constantly and never once pinned them to my head.

The horseshoe ones, on the other hand, squeeze my head mercilessly.
hannunvaakuna From: hannunvaakuna Date: November 16th, 2007 10:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
being a woman is complicated!
elizilla From: elizilla Date: November 16th, 2007 10:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
I have very thick hair but I have the same problems. I think the girls that wear that casual-looking stuff, are working harder at it than they let on.

I have had some good luck with a plastic headband that has long teeth on the underside, that comb back through my hair and then hold in place. I'll show it to you sometime.
larcb From: larcb Date: November 16th, 2007 11:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
I have hardly any forehead, and I have the exact same problem :)
thenisaid From: thenisaid Date: November 16th, 2007 11:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
The headbands, they hurts us! Anything tight on my head is bad news and not worth the trouble.

At one point, I made a bunch of looser, wide ones out of T-shirt fabric, but now those colors are out of fashion and somehow I just don't make them anymore. I wear them for jogging when it's cold, because they can cover my ears.
pi3832 From: pi3832 Date: November 17th, 2007 02:07 am (UTC) (Link)
my head is probably smaller than many people's. So why would a generic one-size-fits-all hairband hurt me?

Because your head is too small. If your head was larger the pressure wouldn't be concentrated on the tips of the tiara, but spread out over the whole arm.

You could try bending the tips out a little in a kind of flair, or just try to find smaller ones. Next time you're at the skating rink, ask the mothers of the leetle girls where the buy such things for their prodigies.
ellison From: ellison Date: November 17th, 2007 02:29 am (UTC) (Link)
I wear an elastic hair band. I have thick wavy/curly hair, fwiw. Anyway, I just have to keep pulling my ponytail over and over to keep the elastic band on. I take the left half of my ponytail in my left hand, the right side in my right hand and pull out to the sides, which makes the band go on tighter again. I do this repeatedly throughout the day. And sometimes when my hair is down, I do tuck it behind my ear. And I have to tuck it over and over again frequently, because it comes out all the time. So, it's easy to maintain if you don't mind fiddling with it and doing the same motion over and over all day long.
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aiela From: aiela Date: November 17th, 2007 04:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
When I wear the elastic ones (and oh my god am I so happy they are back in style - they were a mainstay of my high school hair and I've been waiting and waited for them to come back) I have to wear them half on my hairline and half over my forehead. Then they stay on my head and don't slide off (and that's without any hair in the back to hold them on - my hair is super short in the back)
netmouse From: netmouse Date: November 17th, 2007 06:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
I could never wear the horseshoe shaped hair bands. But some of the elastic cloth ones work just fine for me.
jenx From: jenx Date: November 18th, 2007 04:22 am (UTC) (Link)
I have the same problem with elastic headbands, as well as plastic headbands. They just kinda sliiide off the back of my head. I don't have a little head - I've measured, it's a medium size noggin, in hat terms. I have a love-hate relationship with elastic ponytail holders - the ones that will slide out easily and not rip out my hair will, well, slide out easily. :P
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