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Softball Shirt
You can't tell in this photo, but I'm wearing one of M's old softball shirts.

A few weeks ago he came home from softball practice with his new jersey. In a weird "small world" situation, his team is now sponsored by the location we're having our wedding reception. Thus his shirt had our reception place on the front, and his last name on the back. (His last name also starts with "M".)

"Oh," I exclaimed when I saw it. "I want it!"

"You want a shirt that says M on it??"

"Sure. After all I'm going to be an M too next year."

He paused. "Well I need this one," he said, "but you can have one of my old jerseys."

He dug through his drawers and found me one. It was too big, but I took a pair of scissors to it, to make it shorter. He was surprised when I decided to wear it out, but I thought it was kind of cool. The first thing I own that says "M" on it... kinda neat!

(Oh, and this will answer the question of the name change. The answer is "almost definitely". It's a little weird to imagine not having my own name anymore, so I think I'm going to keep my last name as a second-middle-name. That will stay on my resume and drivers license and such, but in casual use I think I'm gonna be an M.)


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lintra From: lintra Date: May 19th, 2010 01:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
You may want to check with the SoS on the last name as middle name thing. I did that for awhile, even got it that way on the SS card, but when I went to get it on the license, I was told they didn't have a way to do that, and I either had to pick or hyphenate.

Now, this is awhile back, but still - after the tyranical 'patriot act' passed, you have to have all your ID, bank accounts, etc under the same name, so I had to go around and change everything AGAIN which is when I ended up just hyphenating it.
renniekins From: renniekins Date: June 1st, 2010 02:35 am (UTC) (Link)
Hmmm, thanks for the pointer. How inconvenient for you!

That's worrisome. When it gets closer to the time, I'll definitely do some investigating before committing to anything. But... but... I want ALL my names! :)
pi3832 From: pi3832 Date: May 19th, 2010 03:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think I'm going to keep my last name as a second-middle-name.

Which is actually the traditional way to do things. Or, just replace your middle name with your paternal family name.
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."
From: writerwench Date: May 19th, 2010 10:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
Hoo boy, that name-change thing.... I'm trying not to fret about having my passport away being renewed in my married name at present, and then when I get that back I can do the driving licence, have already done the car registration form... banks... credit cards yet to do... the more I think I'm done with it all, the more bits of mail I get from various institutions and companies that need informing..

Still, every time I do a change of name, it gives me a real kick of 'Hey, I'm MARRIED!' which makes me smile all around.
renniekins From: renniekins Date: June 1st, 2010 02:33 am (UTC) (Link)
I like that aspect of it! :D
susmadel From: susmadel Date: May 21st, 2010 07:05 pm (UTC) (Link)

Its a lot of work

So I guess you know I am changing my name too. I was going to do it right after the wedding, but then I realized that it was going to take months. A day in person at the Social Security Office and the DMV (I guess the wait can be up to 4 hours each). Then I have to send in for a new passport, change all my accounts, and fix things at work. I guess if your name at work doesn't match your SS Card, you end up with issues filing your taxes. Lovely.

I think it will be work it in the end, but when you go for it, take a couple of personal days and print out all the forms ahead so its not so stressful.

It's getting exciting!
renniekins From: renniekins Date: June 1st, 2010 02:32 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Its a lot of work

Well that's obnoxious. I would think it'd be easier... I mean it's a fairly common thing to do. You'd think they'd have a simple booklet that just outlines some simple steps... oh well I guess I'm overly optimistic. (:

I still think it'll be neat. It just makes sense to me, for couples to share a name, and it feels more "family-like".

Not to mention the fact that my current name is awfully cumbersome!

We've picked out a wedding band now! Such fun...!
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